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“Who’d Want To Be A Man?”: on Eyes Bottle Dark With a Mouthful of Flowers by Jake Skeets & Father’s Day by Matthew Zapruder

If, as Seamus Heaney believed, one chief function of poetry is to write place into existence, another of its engines is the impulse to conjure an extant, if fickle and ephemeral, self — a cosmos or construct, depending on your point of view, of gender, demographics, sexuality, environment, and the exigencies, abilities, and of the desires of one’s conscience, one’s body, one’s identity.

Beautiful, daring new books by Jake Skeets and Matthew Zapruder, take up, in striking ways, the question Gregory Orr poses in his poem “Who’d Want to Be a Man?,” published in his 1995 collection City of Salt,  long before toxic masculinity became a buzz phrase:

 

Who’d Want to Be a Man?

 

With his heart

a black sack

in which a small

animal’s trapped.

 

With his grief

like a knot

tied at birth,

balled up and hard.

 

With his rage

that smashes the ten

thousand things

without blinking.

 

With his mind

like a tree on a cliff —

its roots, fists

clutching stone.

 

With his longing

that’s a dry well

and where is the rain?

 

The question for Skeets and Zapruder is not so much who would want to be a man, or whether or not “traditional” notions of masculinity are toxic, binary, or otherwise, but rather how does one be or become a person who is also a man — a lover, a brother, a nephew, a cousin, a husband, a survivor,  a father,  a son,  a citizen,  a human — in a world that can obstruct or confuse that becoming.

Skeets, in his inaugural National Poetry Series-winning collection, Eyes Bottle Dark with a Mouthful of Flowers, ranges the fields, train tracks, backseats, coal yards, and watering holes of liminal border towns attuned to the particular roil of the Native American boys and young men who wander in and through them. He attends with exquisite, lyric eroticism to the ways in which their world is shaped by landscape, violence, danger, prejudice, intoxication, Diné language and culture, sexual tension, and the hauntings of a host of familial and tribal ghosts. Soma, word, and world turn into one another everywhere (“I open the word and crawl inside its spine, barbed wire, turbine / with dark belly, coil hierarchy.  //  What word, you ask.  Your body a cloud flattened in my hand” from “Love Poem”).

Father’s Day, Zapruder’s fifth poetry collection, moves with audacity and vulnerability into the territory of “fatherhood” — across familial generations but also in terms of nationhood, especially in the shameocracy of our current purgatorial Trumpian slough of despond, during which time — Zapruder tells us in a prose Afterword to the book — most of the poems in this collection were written. With characteristic wry humor and forthrightness (“is there anyone worse / than Roseanne Barr?” he asks in one poem), Zapruder makes brave forays into his own complex experiences and emotions as the father of an autistic son while at the same time confronting the vexed promises, inheritances, and failures of America’s Founding Fathers and its citizenry.

 

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It was 106 degrees in August 1985 when I moved with my husband to an un-air conditioned rental house in Denton, Texas, so that he could enter a graduate jazz program at the University of North Texas.  We’d arrived from the east coast (except for a trip to St. Louis to see my youngest sister graduate, I’d not ventured west of the Mississippi in all of my then 29 years).   One of our first outings was to view Richard Avedon’s show In the American West that had opened that fall at the (air-conditioned) Amon Carter Museum in nearby Fort Worth.  I found the exhibit stunning, disturbing, haunting. It unnerved me that Avedon —himself an Easterner on unfamiliar turf, and best known for his fashion and celebrity photographs — would choose to photograph, over a period of several summers — a wild mix of wanderers, snake handlers, drifters, policemen, carnies, workers of all kinds — all in front of a large backdrop of white paper that removed any context and intensely highlighted the bodies and faces of his subjects.  How weirdly lyric, I remember jotting in my notebook, this attempt to remove the kind of “story” that landscape or other surroundings might provide his subjects. Against their seamless, blank backdrops, each person portrayed evinced a terrible isolation.

In the 30-plus years since I saw that show, certain images from it — faces, mostly — have stayed with me, in the way that some of Diane Arbus, Walker Evans, and Carrie Mae Weems’s photographs have become part of my psychic landscape. A month ago, when an advance review copy of Jake Skeets’s book slipped into my hands from an envelope sent by Milkweed Editions, I found staring back at me, on the book’s cover, one of the very particular images I’ve carried with me from the Avedon exhibit and the catalogue that accompanied it: a portrait of a man/boy, a Native American, his brownness implied and intensified in the black-and-white photo by the white drop-cloth, his shell buttons and fingernails luminous, fists clenched. This was a person, I wrote at the time in my notebook, both indelible and disappearing.

As I would very soon learn, this person (“Benson James, Drifter, Route 66, Gallup, New Mexico, 06/30/79,” a subject murdered, I would also discover, with a year) was in fact Jake Skeets’s uncle, the photograph taken before Skeets was born. It strikes me that Skeets’s book is in many ways a writing into and around the space that Avedon’s photographic praxis for that project obliterated — acknowledging the isolation, yes, but also conjuring the tribal, familial, and  geographical forces that shaped Benson, that shape any person in liminal or marginalized circumstances. (Skeets has written and spoken about his experiences with this photograph in many places, including here (https://milkweed.org/blog/drifting-a-cover-image-story) and here

https://lithub.com/on-the-famous-photograph-of-my-late-uncle-that-inspired-a-collection/ ).

Skeets’s book is full of fields, not the least of which is the page itself:

 

dogs

maul

remains

like white

space

does

 

(“In the Fields”)

 

Skeets not so much populates each page with words but rather calls forth or invokes out of the field of each page what might not otherwise be seen or noticed:  two boys exploring each other’s bodies under a blanket of stars, overgrown train tracks, “a tractor tire backing over a man’s skull,” broken bottles, and a galaxy of flora and fauna — owl pellets, corn beetles, bottle caps, lupine, beardtongue, pigweed, Mormon tea crowns, sego lily, burnt matches, coal slurry, blue flax, buffalo blur.  Boys and young men — drifters, drunks, lovers — are the denizens of these fields, and in their violence and in their erotic desires they are inseparable from the landscape and the words that in part create that landscape (and vice versa), as in this last section of “Tácheeh” (Diné for a ritual ceremonial sweat lodge) :

 

fingers lupine

         beardtongue

bee plant to harrow grasses

 

pronghorn in wild rose

         truck radio more sego lily

and pigweed spewing

 

         from open mouth

boys watch ricegrass shimmer in smoke

 

fires everywhere round them

         arms stretch in sap and bark

hair now meadow

 

limbs tangle into snakeweed

burning burning burning burning

 

they know becoming a man

means knowing how to become charcoal

 

staccato of ash

holding a match to their skin

 

trying not to light themselves on fire

 

The incendiary ritual here depicted holds the float of communal, cultural, as well as sexual initiation. The boys are the field, the field the boys. It is a hallmark of all of Skeets’s poems, in fact, that the risks, terrors, and beauty of the land, of sexuality, of criminality, of language itself are inextricable, inseparable. A poem for a cousin, “My Brother,” again shows this rich panoply of pantheistic forces by which manhood, personhood, can be shaped or shut down:

 

You kissed a man the way I do

                                    but with a handgun.  You called it;  I’m the fag

we were afraid to know, the one we’d throw rocks at, huff at like horses.

 

I learned to touch a man by touching myself.  I learned to be a man by loving one.

 

Prison is not the chicken wire we’d get tangled in.  Remember our bloodied

knees and bloody palms from mangled handlebars, beer bottles,

         and cactus spines?  Remember the horned toad

                                                      we didn’t mean to kill?

 

Our silence — thick as the dusk kicked up by our skinny legs.  You are still

that silence.  Still that boy holding a deflated body

                                                               with your dawning hands.

 

In yet another poem, “Naked,” Skeets writes, “the closest men become [to being naked] is when they are covered in blood / or nothing at all.”  And it is perhaps this wish to be naked, transparent, known, shown, revealed as true that is the simmering, about-to-blow  combustion engine of these poems of becoming.  Joining the most powerful male poets of Eros of our moment — Carl Phillips, Cyrus Cassells, Forrest Gander, Michael McGriff, Brian Teare — Skeets brings his considerable gifts not only to the particular terrible beauty of his native Navaho turf, but to a world in which we must all “unlearn how to hold a fist.”

 

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If the “field” is the presiding formal trope in Skeets’s book, a meta-awareness of “the poem” itself suffuses Matthew Zapruder’s Father’s Day.  Of the book’s 52 poems, nearly half contain in their titles the word “poem” or “poetry” (usually as “poem for,” as in “Poem for Doom” or “Poem for Coleridge”) or “song” (“Another Song,” “A Love Song,” for example).  This forthright confrontation of the mode, process, possibilities, and limitations of his chosen form of communication is typical of Zapruder, whose book Why Poetry?  is a testament to this writer’s faith in the privilege, limitations, and responsibilities of the poem, especially in troubled and troubling times.

Parenthood has its superstitions, its “offspring-protective” rituals and behaviors.  In many cultures, for instance, parents ward off the evil eye by circling their babies with salt or spitting on them if they’re complimented for their beauty. In other places, babies are dropped from rooftops into waiting blankets or squeezed until they cry to inspire strength and courage. For Zapruder, the poem itself becomes a talismanic site for expressing his personal and political worry, ire, guilt, love, and conscience, all italicized by his being a father, and in particular the father of an autistic son. In their odal appeals — to abstractions like doom, vow, and harm, or to particular poets (among them Tomaž Šalamun, James Tate, and Paul Éluard) — the poems often serve as totemic “anthems” from a father concerned about his son (and other people’s children) born into difficult times and under straining circumstances. The poems either confront bad “fathers” [Paul Ryan, Justice Kennedy (“pious blowhard / from the dark collective grief / of half of us”), Donald Trump] or evoke those in whose poetic vision he can believe, his poetry “fathers” (“we were each born / the shadow of reality upon us // so be not easily angry,” for example, from “Poem for Merwin”).

In “December,” a poem that narrates a family’s participation in a peaceful protest in the wake of Trump’s election.

 

. . .  I lifted my son

so he could see

what people

look like

when they hear

the song Imagine

. . .

everyone understands

in a different

contradictory way

the so far purely

abstract

catastrophe

so many millions

of choices

brought us,

not too far

from the water

I sat on the couch

below the sound

of blades

drinking amber

numbing fluids

my thoughts

chopping the air

feeling not

what is the word

to be father

equipped . . .

 

 

“My Life” recounts the birth of the narrator’s son, its joy, its complexities:

 

sorrow months

then slow realizing

playground dread,

the year

of diagnosis when

our life kept

being a place

for worsening fears

in enviable comfort

to occur as we

graciously received

the humiliation

of being the ones

gratefully not to be,

those many hours

in the bedroom screaming

then lurching out

for exhausted walks,

trying with no

success to protect

us from everything

anyone could say . . .

 

This poem and the others in Father’s Day provide a way for Zapruder’s father-speaker to “equip” himself.  Later in “My Life,” the speaker writes of his son’s great pleasure in song, itself a redemptive gift:

 

now we’re moving

fortunate ones

from our beloved house

to another hill

near a school

where his mind

happily alive

in music can grow,

can I say he is

my painful joy,

he thinks in rhyme,

the truest friend

to no one yet

he is my

favorite word

remembrancer . . .

 

Zapruder is ever mindful that even despair is a privilege, and his poems offer a bellwether clarion call to the advantaged to be mindful of the plight of others.  In the title poem, “Father’s Day.” he writes,

 

we don’t deserve

a little brunch

followed by

a sleepy blow job

we all know

merely to survive

this totally

survivable life

is not enough

what good will it do

we must not think

this is some dream

the children sleeping

alone in some

detention center

don’t need

our brilliant sincerity

it’s not enough

to give some money

make some calls

they are not ours

but they are

we are the first

new fathers

ours failed

where we cannot

stop waiting

there are no others

 

In their unique ways, these two poets — Skeets in his intense, compressed, and oblivion-haunted somascapes and Zapruder in enjambed, expansive, and seemingly tangential jeremiads and love songs — offer insightful delvings into the manifold lives of boys and men.  Both books acknowledge, as Zapruder puts it in “Tunnel Park,” the final poem in Father’s Day, that “everyone knows / worse times // are coming / who isn’t afraid / only the dead,” yet each believes in the redemptive forces of language, of love made through language, as cliché as that may sound. Zapruder is ruthless in his willingness to face down hard wrongs (in addition to politicians, colleagues at a staff meeting, he even takes on the iconic Walt Whitman for his racist views), but his “Poem for Vows” is one of the most honest and beautiful epithalamiums I’ve ever read. And Skeets’s incantatory “In the Fields” is a calling back into the fold of the present all who have been turned by its injustices and bigotry to ash:

 

We are all beautiful at least once.

Mud water puddles along enamel.

Eyeteeth blossom into osprey. Our bones

dampen like snowmelt under squirrel grass.

We could be boys together finally

as milk etch, tumbleweed, and sticker bush.

We can be beautiful again beneath

the sumac, yarrow, and bitter water.

 

[Eyes Bottle Dark With a Mouthful of Flowers, published by Milkweed Editions on September 10, 2019, 96 pages, $16.00 paperback. Father’s Day, published by Copper Canyon Press on September 3, 2019, 96 pages, $17.00 paperback]

Contributor
Lisa Russ Spaar

Lisa Russ Spaar’s latest collection is Madrigalia: New & Selected Poems (Persea Books, 2021). Her new novel is Paradise Close (Persea, 2022). She is the editor of the anthology More Truly and More Strange: 100 Contemporary Self-Portrait Poems (2020, Persea). Lisa is a professor in the creative writing program at The University of Virginia, and a contributing editor of On the Seawall.

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